tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post709106156082026509..comments2024-03-24T18:43:18.706-04:00Comments on Darwinfish 2: Whatsername Part 3bluzdudehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-70079278715682147192014-03-06T20:16:44.743-05:002014-03-06T20:16:44.743-05:00Empathy and approval prevail. This too shall pass...Empathy and approval prevail. This too shall pass. Spread your wings and crow, "Check it OUT. I'm incredible. Check I OUT!"<br />"Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting it to kill your enemies." Nelson MandellaMaryAnnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-46423238566498796602011-05-17T22:27:25.258-04:002011-05-17T22:27:25.258-04:00Monty,
Thank you for slogging through the entire W...Monty,<br />Thank you for slogging through the entire Whatsername Trilogy.<br /><br />Yes, I have to admit that the fact I turned out to be The One That Got Away did make it a bit easier to let bygones be bygones. (OK, that and the 23 years, anyway...)bluzdudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-17596784834036366222011-05-17T21:12:03.335-04:002011-05-17T21:12:03.335-04:00Thoroughly enjoyable read (all 3 chapters).
Reme...Thoroughly enjoyable read (all 3 chapters). <br /><br />Remember that scene at the end of Swingers when his ex finally calls him, and he cuts her off mid-"I love you" by clicking over to take the new girl's call? <br /><br />My favorite part of the story is that you both ultimately got confirmation that she traded down from you. It is, of course, immature for me to feel that way, but I'm satisfied for you nonetheless.Montynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-58320985188674562142011-05-03T18:18:57.504-04:002011-05-03T18:18:57.504-04:00Red Pen Mama, (and Cristy, who agrees)
That’s wher...<b>Red Pen Mama, (and Cristy, who agrees)</b><br />That’s where one hopes to get to with past relationships… that place where seeing them doesn’t cause stomach pains. It’s good to be able to look at your shared past rationally and maybe come out with some lessons.<br /><br />In this case, it took 23 years. The longer it is, through the looking glass, the clearer it can be seen.<br /><br /><b>Mrs. Bachelor Girl,</b><br />Anything to get your mind off the plumbing, huh?<br />(And I mean real plumbing in the house, not MBG’s plumbing… although that might work as well.)<br /><br /><b>Kernut,</b><br />Yes! As a matter of fact, Mrs. Bachelor Girl (see Commenter above) put the link in Comments for the previous post. I loved it!bluzdudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-12745509227333423052011-05-03T17:56:08.836-04:002011-05-03T17:56:08.836-04:00Have you heard "Are You F*&$ing Kidding M...Have you heard "Are You F*&$ing Kidding Me? (The Facebook Song)"? It's a hilarious song about an ex trying to friend a gal on Facebook.Kernut the Blondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12574615742310337050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-22454942883909513182011-05-03T17:10:09.933-04:002011-05-03T17:10:09.933-04:00HOOOOOOOO boy. I'm not going to get all melodr...HOOOOOOOO boy. I'm not going to get all melodramatic here, but let's just say I really needed to read that today. Right now. This minute.Mrs. Bachelor Girlhttp://www.bachelorgirl.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-19191627109230254522011-05-03T17:03:12.154-04:002011-05-03T17:03:12.154-04:00Red Pen Mama - I totally agree! I have tried to e...Red Pen Mama - I totally agree! I have tried to explain that trend to others, and you worded it perfectly! That's how it worked for me, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-81329686097274055312011-05-03T09:44:25.000-04:002011-05-03T09:44:25.000-04:00I think our 20s are a time of experimentation. Som...I think our 20s are a time of experimentation. Some people "get lucky" and find the love of their life at that point... and some of us weather the "bad" relationship(s) to come out the other side (and maybe get some therapy) and THEN find the love of our life. Or that's how it happened to me. (I have "bad" in quotes up there, because The Ex wasn't a horrible person... we were just bad for each other.)<br /><br />Anywho, entertaining as always. The Ex and I have mutual friends, and so we see each other every so often, and it's totally stress free. It's a good place to be. :)red pen mamahttp://albamaria30.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-54561140186362483222011-05-02T23:15:51.590-04:002011-05-02T23:15:51.590-04:00Cristy,
I try not to use that phrase much because ...Cristy,<br />I try not to use that phrase much because it's getting overplayed... hence, the commercial. But it fit here.<br /><br />I didn't see when the start date was for that law to take effect... the one that says that a commercial must come on at the same volume that the show's outtro had. Currently, they can match the volume of the show's highest level, which is why it is always so jarring when they come on.<br /><br />I'll drop by on your site tomorrow....bluzdudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-22184299041986230242011-05-02T21:09:22.087-04:002011-05-02T21:09:22.087-04:00Bluz, would you kill me if your "Win/Win"...Bluz, would you kill me if your "Win/Win" reminded me of that commercial of the two business guys, where one assigns himself a different seat on a flight because his coworker keeps saying "Win/Win" on their trip? Sorry. I'll probably never be able to hear that phrase without thinking of that again. Damn commercials. <br /><br />And, totally off the subject, when is that damn law that's supposed to make it so they can't increase the volume for commercials going to go into effect? I haven't forgotten, tv gurus. Make it happen. Like, yesterday.<br /><br />p.s. I'm curious of your thoughts on my latest post on my cloudyeyz lj. It's politics stuff, but if you get around to it, I'd be interested to hear another politically-savvy opinion about it. No hurry. You see how long it takes me to catch up on yours sometimes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-30638399961769004902011-05-02T19:51:40.851-04:002011-05-02T19:51:40.851-04:00Lilo,
It was funny because in your comment from th...Lilo,<br />It was funny because in your comment from that last post when you were saying "Don't do it! Don't do it!", I'd already done it. I just needed to give each post room to breathe before continuing.<br /><br />As I recall, she was the first girl that ever flat-out broke up with me... OK, the 1st, 2nd and 3rd. So I did not know how to deal with it at all. Unfortunately, I had more opportunities to get it right, and I think I did. These experiences were a real learning process. And what I learned was how absolutely draining and soul-deadening it is to stay that angry at someone, and that's just the effect on me.<br /><br />Anyway, I just learned to cut it the fuck loose. Grieve, give it its due, but shuck it off and move on.bluzdudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-40824774872803926052011-05-02T19:29:11.654-04:002011-05-02T19:29:11.654-04:00That's terrific. I don't know if I'd h...That's terrific. I don't know if I'd have been anywhere near that forgiving. I'm still good friends with a high-school boyfriend, but except for the awkward year after I told him I couldn't marry him because we were kids and he was possessive, we'd been friends since we were three. Otherwise, well, it's a good thing I never dated that many people, because hell hath no fury like me scorned. <br /><br />It was probably very healing for you both to discuss why that relationship was so terrible. It would be horrible to deal with all those pressures, and of course she'd take it out on someone else, and lucky you, you were there. <br /><br />It's a great story, mostly because you learned from experience and became a great person.CrackerLilohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18176388186521154104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-46896455054649898502011-05-02T18:08:03.658-04:002011-05-02T18:08:03.658-04:00Mary Ann,
Amen. An apt quotation from the Book of...<b>Mary Ann,</b><br />Amen. An apt quotation from the Book of Loaf.<br /><br /><b>Cristy,</b><br />Well thanks. I’m not trying to be a Boy Scout or anything. It just felt like the right thing to do. And we both have closure now. Win/win.<br /><br /><b>Cassie,</b><br />It turned out well… I’m happy with the outcome… for me, anyway. I still hate hearing about someone else having such a tough time, even if she did used to drive me crazy.<br /><br /><b>Jessica,</b><br />If there had been Facebook in existence, back 15-20 years ago, and this happened then, I probably would have. But at this age, it’s time for me to actually BE a grownup, not just impersonate one. This whole experience (and I’m not even done yet) has been quite therapeutic.bluzdudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-12600964241380605132011-05-02T15:36:14.383-04:002011-05-02T15:36:14.383-04:00I have to admit, I probably would have just clicke...I have to admit, I probably would have just clicked "ignore," and then bitched about it for weeks. Glad to hear that you were able to hash things out with her all these years later.Jessica R.http://www.leelafish.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-28004211458985021152011-05-02T15:04:45.808-04:002011-05-02T15:04:45.808-04:00It's fun to hear how life turns full circle. Y...It's fun to hear how life turns full circle. You're a good person Tony. I'm glad you have that closure you deserve.Cassiehttp://www.whosmydaddy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-83577618106495863582011-05-02T10:11:41.290-04:002011-05-02T10:11:41.290-04:00How very mature of you, Bluz! (Don't worry, I ...How very mature of you, Bluz! (Don't worry, I won't tell anyone!) What a smart way to wrap up the loose ends of your and her emotions. Very cool. You get a *gold star* for good sportsmanship. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-21227974044909914202011-05-02T09:24:09.489-04:002011-05-02T09:24:09.489-04:00'It was long ago and it was far away/and we we...'It was long ago and it was far away/and we were so much younger than we are today...'.<br />Another of the world's wounds is healed.<br />Namaste.Mary Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07436313849372588111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-17418223068078234852011-05-01T23:23:03.037-04:002011-05-01T23:23:03.037-04:00DG,
Time is the great healer, truly... which is a ...<b>DG,</b><br />Time is the great healer, truly... which is a more elegant way of saying that wisdom comes once you get old. <br /><br />I'm sorry you lost your friend, however far removed.<br /><br /><b>Sherry,</b><br />I am indeed, and hope that she gets to that place as well.bluzdudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-78273571598024375932011-05-01T20:31:39.300-04:002011-05-01T20:31:39.300-04:00Sometimes it takes a decade or two--and someone in...Sometimes it takes a decade or two--and someone in and out of our life--to come to a revelation. <br /><br />I hope you're happy with the place you've found yourself. You deserve it.sherry stanfa-stanleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00680055033925659511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-47442511419735182532011-05-01T19:59:30.897-04:002011-05-01T19:59:30.897-04:00Very interesting how life turns out, isn't it?...Very interesting how life turns out, isn't it? Glad you were able to interact with her with such grace. One of my ex's on FB's train really did crash, and when I found out about it I was only very sad for this person I once cared so much about.DGnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-2152514185837350062011-05-01T17:51:33.341-04:002011-05-01T17:51:33.341-04:00Jayne,
Come to think of it,perhaps it was both me ...Jayne,<br />Come to think of it,perhaps it was both me and the deer that were tangled up in the barbed wire. It pays to carry bolt cutters around the woods.bluzdudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-60070954343884203752011-05-01T16:45:59.750-04:002011-05-01T16:45:59.750-04:00Experience takes time... It's a bitch, ain'...Experience takes time... It's a bitch, ain't it? <br /><br />Good for you for handling that so well and freeing both yourself and her from the "barbed wire." <br /><br />Nicely told, my friend.injaynesworldhttp://injaynesworld.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-46099784561796823732011-05-01T14:23:46.131-04:002011-05-01T14:23:46.131-04:00Thank you Judie. Now don't let me catch you s...Thank you Judie. Now don't let me catch you seeing other blogs on the side. (OK, Cherlock's approved because that's family...) ;o)bluzdudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-28409196123893743252011-05-01T13:27:54.405-04:002011-05-01T13:27:54.405-04:00Bluz, your parents must be so proud of you. I thi...Bluz, your parents must be so proud of you. I think you are a wonderful human being, and I am honored to call you my friend.Judiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02778815502961000469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-329507352453931374.post-22989501419525376042011-05-01T11:32:48.639-04:002011-05-01T11:32:48.639-04:00Director’s DVD Commentary: I apologize for the clu...<b>Director’s DVD Commentary:</b> I apologize for the clunky deer analogy right off the bat. I know it doesn’t make perfect sense, but it was an image that stuck in my head and seemed to be appropriate. And remember, deer management people… it’s just a story, not a herd-management strategy. That said; I really used to wander the woods behind our house in New York, with a drink in my hand. Doubt I would have wasted some good Jack on a deer though…bluzdudehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05991272670722362652noreply@blogger.com